Are we supposed to have a very specific plan in life?
One that specifies accomplishments and deadlines?
A friend of mine just had her baby and it comes exactly at the age she planned to have it at and around the birth date she had picked out for it.
Is that too much?
I don't have a plan, I don't have a set goal of where I want to be and at what specific age. The only thing I plan on planning for is retirement since it involves monthly savings starting now and a little investment will get you a long way if you plan right. But when it comes to being married by this age, having a child by this age and basically mapping out my life I haven't done that. I don't intent to do it either, but does that set me back?
Is marriage an accomplishment, a milestone that would make me into me or is living my life and trying to think outside the box a better description of myself? Am I falling behind because I am 25, single and with no intention to settle? I am starting to move forward in my career and I consider that an accomplishment. Developing the way I see the world and how I think through experiences and education are a better definition of who I am than anything else. I don't understand how some people see being single as a set back, and all that I strive for should be to meet a man. To be honest I want to meet the man, but just not a man in order to meet some deadline set out by society and meeting him will be an extension of who I already am not my entire being.
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I don't have goals, either. I get really frustrated when people ask me about my future plans (for school, mostly.) I tell them I don't know and then they go on about how I *need* to have a plan. I don't think we do. I think it's perfectly OK to just go with it. How boring would life be if we had a plan for it and knew how everything would go?
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